Have you ever thought about the reasons why you buy something? Be it a piece of clothing or even a car. Ever wonder what your motivation is behind your choices? What about where you go on holiday or even where you choose to live and the kind of home you end up either renting or owning? Or the kind of foods you like and the music you choose to listen to? How about the career you're in? Is it what you have always wanted to do/be? Is any or all of this for you?
Validation. Recognition. Acknowledgement. Resolution. Acceptance. I’ve been thinking a lot about the forces that drive us. Think about it. Every choice we make comes from somewhere. In any given situation, be it a job/career, a partner, a lifestyle, our achievements, we may think we are the ones in full control over the decisions we make. Yet, somewhere deep within us is a more urgent force that ultimately pushes us in one direction. This deeper influence effectively is our 'why'.
On any given day, we are faced with a multitude of choices, decisions we need to make about when to wake up, what to wear, what to eat, and then the more advanced decisions like when we get to work, dealing with our children and partners. Throw in the more complicated questions about our life in the grand scheme of things and who we are and want to be, then we really start to see where our heads are at.
So much of who we are is tied to who we have been shaped to be. All of us hear a voice, or two, or three that influence us (even that of an entire community). Some are positive, like cheerleaders pushing us to be our best self. Others are negative, draining us, sometimes forcing us to hide back in our own shadows. Those voices ca